how i found you


How I Found: Atticus
March 12, 2009, 5:37 pm
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I left my husband, “Rick”, on April 14th, 2002. I lost my job two weeks later. My bank account was completely dry, so I used a credit card to stay in a motel for a couple months. Unemployment helped a bit, but hurt my self-esteem. My parents were unsupportive at best, blaming me for the separation. All my friends were originally Rick’s, a mistake I vowed never to make again. I was alone, I was penniless, and it was just the beginning of the end of my life as I knew it.

Rick and I owned a beautiful $250,000 house on five acres; he offered me $3200 as a buy-out of the marriage. Although I only asked for 25% of our assets, we quibbled over money for more than a year. Since we didn’t have children, the court system kept delaying our hearing date, and we weren’t legally divorced until late in 2003.

But I get ahead of myself. I did find more work, but also lost that job at the end of the summer in 2002. I moved back home, in with my parents, feeling like I had nowhere else to turn. My legal fees were ridiculously high, my unemployment ran out, my car’s timing belt slipped and amounted to thousands of dollars in repairs, I began having health problems that also amounted to thousands of dollars in “repairs,” and my mother still seemed intent on giving me the impression she hated me (my favorite was seeing a book on her shelf titled, When Our Grown Children Disappoint Us.) Continue reading